The Search for Balance – Part II

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I hope you found value in taking a few days to ponder this concept of life balance.  Since starting my last post ‘Is Balance Attainable’,  I have become very aware of the moments in my day when I feel balanced and the ones when I do not.  Balance feels like a well oiled machine where all the moving parts fit together perfectly.  When life goes as planned, the way I anticipate it should go, and it meets my expectations, that’s when I feel most balanced!  The best word I know to describe this feeling is harmony – the different parts of my life sing in harmony with each other and the sound is beautiful.

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There is a moment when the plate spinner gets all his plates spinning with sufficient speed, a moment when he doesn’t have to attend to any of the plates, a moment of total balance and harmony…..until one of the plates begins to teeter.  This is the reality of life – we can create that moment of pure harmony but it rarely lasts very long.  Inevitably, some part of our life is always teetering.

Yesterday was a perfect example.  I woke early in the morning feeling calm, focused and ready for an awesome day!  The schedule was planned out with precision and included a few set appointments, writing time, family time, work out time and a little ‘do-nothing’ time.  Life was good – until a plate started to teeter.

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My first appointment ran 30 minutes longer than expected, followed by the drive home taking an extra 10 minutes due to traffic.  Once home, one of my family members (his name will remain unpublished so I can’t be accused of throwing him under the bus!) misplaced something he needed, which required a search party to stop what they were doing and begin the hunt for the desired item.  And if that was not enough to totally set me back, I found out at the last minute that my signature was needed on a document, which required a 15 minute drive from home, in the opposite direction from where I needed to be going.

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Sometimes we can recover from a wobbling plate, other times it creates a domino effect.  On this particular day, all my dominoes got knocked over!  The series of wobbling plates certainly threw off the physical schedule, but more importantly, it shattered my internal balance.  With the gymnast or the plate spinner, we can clearly see when there is or is not balance.  However, in our day to day lives, we can’t always see the balance, instead there is a feeling inside, a feeling of harmony or disharmony.

With a deep sigh (partly defeat – partly relief), I’ve decided to abandon my search for living a balanced life.  But I’m not giving up my quest for living a life of harmony, one that makes beautiful music.

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So if it’s not BALANCE that brings us harmony….what is it?

The really important life questions can’t be answered without taking time to process them, understand them, and incorporate them into our lives.  Keep sharing your thoughts, insights and revelations with me….and we’ll bring some sense of completion to this conversation on Friday!

with Joy & Gratitude

Is Balance Attainable?

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I’m in search of BALANCE in my life….and if I were a gambler, I’d bet I’m not the only one!

I have a very specific flaw that has made my quest for balance a huge challenge.  I’ve been described as an ‘all or nothing’ kind of person.  When I do something, I give it 110% , or I don’t do it at all.  Giving that level of commitment to something can be very rewarding.  However, when I immerse myself into one or two aspects of my life, it’s usually to the detriment of the other areas in my life.

Thankfully, I’m a work in progress and this is an area where I’m striving to make significant change.  My goal is to live with awesomeness in every aspect of my life, not just one or two areas at a time.

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BALANCE

– a state of equilibrium, to be equal or equivalent

– a harmonious or satisfying arrangement of parts, as in a design

– an even distribution of weight, enabling someone (or something) to remain upright and steady

 

I have many different pictures in my head when I think of balance.

I see someone holding a yoga pose with strength, grace and ease.

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I see a gymnast effortlessly performing intricate footwork

and powerful tumbling on a 4 inch wooden beam.

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I see African women stoically navigating uneven ground

while carrying heavy jugs of water on their heads.

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Unfortunately, these visions of balance couldn’t be any further from the reality of what my life looks like.

A more accurate visual representation of my life would be that of a plate spinner.

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The feat of keeping all the plates in perpetual motion is awesome to see.  But if you watch the plate spinner himself, instead of the plates, you’ll notice he is frantic, agitated and unsettled.  His body moves non-stop while his mind focuses with laser precision on whichever plate is losing speed and in need of his urgent attention.  His role is unforgiving.  If he fails, and lets a plate come crashing to the floor, he doesn’t fulfill his goal of being  an accomplished plate spinner.  Yet when he is successful, he sacrifices internal peace, harmony and balance for accomplishment.

Wow, that is NOT a pretty picture!  But unfortunately it’s how many of us live.  This leaves me wondering if it’s realistic to even strive for a balanced life?  Is it possible to distribute ourselves evenly throughout the multiple segments of our lives?  And if it is possible, can we maintain the balance consistently throughout our life?   A yoga student may only hold a pose for a few minutes at most.  The balance beam routine lasts less than 5 minutes for the gymnast.  Even the plate spinner doesn’t keep all his plates spinning indefinitely.

Hhhmmmm…..this is a perfect place to pause.

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I think we should take a few days to ponder the concept of balance in our life.  Is it possible to live a balanced life?  What does a balanced life look like?  How do we create balance in our life?  What prevents us from living a balanced life?

Talk to me – I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Stay tuned for my next post on Wednesday, when we will continue to explore the quandary of living a balanced life.

with Joy & Gratitude,